The purpose in everything.

Recently, I have been presented with a situation. Actually, is more of a scenario of realization, rather than just a situation. I think I just began perceiving some things differently, in a sense. Most things, in fact. Well, to cut to the chase. I've been wondering about the purpose of things. Why do we commit to anything? Why, if everything is known to eventually come to an end? And that made me go even deeper; I came to question: So, what is the purpose of life, itself? This is what I want to talk to you about today.

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I started dating someone. But, from the moment we began seeing each other, we both knew that we didn't have any perspective of future together; because I'd be moving out of my state within just a few months. And, well, reading this, you may wonder. Okay, so, what was the point in even dating the guy, then?

And here's the thing. I didn't see no point. I was just looking for some fun to add to my daily life. I was not thinking of marrying him. It was just... I don't know. I didn't mull over it a lot at the time.

Now, the thing is; sooner or later, we'd have to face reality. One month in, after we started seeing each other, the elephant in the room came up. If neither of us could see ourselves together for the long term, then, what was the point in us having a relationship?

The talk was harsh, it was difficult. And, while it was happening, I won't lie and say that I didn't feel overly uncomfortable. When I left and went home, I was feeling bad. I was mad. Because it didn't feel right. I didn't feel like I was getting what I wanted from our relationship, our dynamic.

Then I went to bed; just to wake up the next morning with something new in my head.

And that's where things start to get interesting. In a good way.

I remember thinking: Well, yes. I don't see a point in dating this guy. But, then, why is it that would I never go back on meeting him? And I'll tell you the answer to that.

It's because, even when we see no purpose in things, they have one. And you wait; I promise that I'm onto something. This is not just me repeating some cliché sort of saying. Follow me on this.

Take you failing on a test for an example. That sounds completely awful, right? Nobody wants that. We all (generally) study a lot for tests because we believe in how important it is for us to pass them. So, picture you are taking a really, really important test. You spend the whole night before studying and reviewing for it. And then you fail. You don't know how to answer most of its questions. You flunk the class.

That does sound terrible. And we all tend to see things like that as really bad; something that is in the way of letting us live our lives the way we are supposed to. Because, if you flunked the class, that means you have to wait another year until you can try and pass it again. Then all that time... It feels lost. It feels like something in your life went terribly wrong, and now you'll have to adapt to it and learn to leave behind all the things you could've lived if only you had got those answers right, if only you had studied just a little bit more.

But, now, here's the thing. The things that we consider bad in our lives, they're not obstacles. They are just part of it, part of our journey. Living is wanting, trying, failing, getting up, walking, seeing, loving, sharing, appreciating, doing it all again and again and again. Everything that happens to us changes us. It's never for the good or for the bad. It's always for the growing.

And growing is always profit. No matter how it happens; it just does. Today, you woke up deeper than you were yesterday. Wider, wiser, more experienced. You just can't lose in life. Everything we face is a tool available to make us grow. And that... That is the purpose of life. Growing.

That is the purpose of me dating someone just for the idea of doing it. By then, I didn't see no purpose. If it weren't for it, however, would I be here? Presenting this conclusion to you?

This post is not about a boy. It is about the way we choose to see everything that happens to us in our lives. And I've reached the conclusion that there's no other way to see those things other than always being something that's happening for the evolution of our perspectives. It is all living. And I love living: experiencing, facing, learning. Growing.