I need closure, how do I get that?

1. Relationships are the most amazing, beautiful, exciting and destroying things in the world. Specially for sensitive and emotional people; those who care so much about who they love that, when they need to step back from them, they break from the inside.

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I'm one of those people, and, if you're reading this, you probably are too. And being that is definitely not easy, it is actually one of the hardest things ever; because it feels like, nowadays, nobody does really care about giving people the importance they deserve. And if you are loyal, everything you get is disadvantage. Welcome, guys: This is the Real World!

You know that one person who is the only one to wait when everybody is walking on the street and someone needs to tie their shoes? That's us. And when you are the one to stay behind? Nobody waits for you. This is how it works for the people who care, and it will probably never change. The best we can do is stay around just people who really care about us, and stop trying to please everybody else. That's what I do, at least. Do you know why? I'll tell you. Because when we care a lot about people who don't give a shit about us, all we get is a broken heart. Personal experience.

So, going back to the title of this post, what do I do to get the closure I need when somebody who I really care about doesn't want to stay around me anymore? How do I get over that? How do I move on?

Honestly, I'm just another teenager and I do not have any answers about how to live life the right way. Specially because I don't even believe that "right way" exists. What you need to try to do is remember that you only live once, and you should not waste your precious short time on Earth crying over people who would never cry over you. That's hard. Trust me, I know it. But it's true. If you are still crying over someone and need closure, my advice is: do whatever you need to do to make you feel better. If you have to send that person a message, then be it. If you have to cut your hair, then be it. If you have to go to the mall and spend all your money on ice-cream, then BE IT. But never, ever forget: you matter. And even though you don't get the person that you love back, YOU MATTER. Even if it is to you.

So don't you dare assume that whatever happened to you was your fault. Don't even think about blaming yourself over the fact that someone left you. If that person really cared about you, then they would have stayed. And if they didn't, then they don't care. And you don't want someone who doesn't care about you by your side. Because at the first opportunity, they will betray you for their own good.

Basically: you need closure? That's completely fine, and healthy. Go after it. Do whatever you feel like doing. But remember that you are looking for closure, not for a coming back to how things used to be. All you have to do to get over someone is be in peace with yourself. The problem is: this is the hardest part. And it takes time. Sometimes, a lot of time. But it will pass, and you will be fine. You'll be fine and better, after learning a lot of things that life would never have taught you otherwise. So be grateful: everything happens for a reason ;)

Love you guys,

Bee.